Lagalicious

A New Season

2009-07-28T07:01:00.003-05:00

SL has turned another page for me. The Dorian Day Spa is closed, due to financial reasons. The cost of maintaining the sim and staff was unfeasible, even though it hurt and was hard to do, it had to be done. I have decided that SL is now a place of enjoyment and relaxation. The Dorian is in a great transition, but I will definitely play a background role. I am contemplating another SL job, if only to supplement my Lindens. I am in a transition of my own.
Kris and I are now living together full time in South Africa. I moved 9000 miles, live in a completely different place- I'm not surprised by this, I knew it wouldn't be like Chicago. It's thrilling and lovely. I have a completely new life that is going to be sorted, as every aspect has changed. Well, every aspect except one. Kris. It's a wonderful thing to transition from SL to RL. We had to work so hard, put in immense amounts of energy to keeping each other sane during those long months apart. Believe me, if it's happened in a long distance relationship, we've been through it. Now we are learning how to be a couple living and loving together. There are many challenges, but I would do it all again just to be able to see him when he walks through the door from work, when we have our tea.
Second Life will cease to be a working hobby for me. I plan on using it to enjoy time with my friends and express myself artistically. I am going to take a little break now actually, from the computer and internet. There are things in my RL that need a lot of energy. A lot of work that I will be focused on. I would like to enjoy my RL more, be outside more (even though it's FREEZING) and get more done. I am still transitioning to the lifestyle here, and there is plenty I have to learn. First of those is driving. *laughs* I am so not used to manual! Also getting a working permit, a gym membership, meet more people. Not to say I haven't already, there is a group of women I hang out with from Northern America who are just amazing. We have such fun together! Now is the time to focus and concentrate on those things.
SL is a gift. I feel I've been successful in all my endeavors. I have met some amazing people, and some amazing crazy people as well. I think you can lose a sense of propriety, you can forget that you are responsible for what you say, and yes, if you think I'm talking about you- then I probably am. I've never said anything to those that have hurt me in the past publicly, but there it is. No one respects you because you don't respect anyone else, and your disillusions are gradiose and spectacular. ahhhh.. that feels much better.
So for now, I will walk away and turn towards the sun, the light that nourishes us all. It's amazing to live so close to the begining of man. It's a wonderful place to start over. I haven't left my past entirely, I speak with my family and friends a lot, and Kris and I will be going back in December.
I was going to post another blog entry, a lookbook of past looks and my present avatar in SL. Have a look here instead:

New Bibe

Classic Bibe

I hope this answers some questions some of you have had for awhile. It's been a great run, but as I said before, time to go out in the sun.
~Bibe

NOH8 in SL

2009-07-11T16:14:00.001-05:00

NOH8, originally uploaded by ~Bibe~.

Hi there! haven't posted in awhile- I've been working on my photo skills, especially for this cause.

I'm Alive, I swear.

2009-06-14T13:05:00.002-05:00

Hello dearests!
Some exciting new developments have happened, and I know I have recieved a lot of inquiries as to WTF happened to me over the past few weeks! I decided the best way to get the word out was to use the blog!
I guess I should start with an update on my life in South Africa with Kris. It's WONDERFUL. I've never been SO HAPPY in all my life! We have a vibrant, exciting, amazing relationship based on communication, trust, friendship, laughter, PASSION, respect, and most important, sex. Just kidding! (kind of). The first month I was there, I sort of bumbled about, trying to figure out what my place was and acclimated to the new environment. I started cooking more and volunteering. We started socializing with his friends and I even made new friends of my own. The next month I became more involved with volunteering and spending time with Kris, adjusting to the new schedule. SL was really opening up, I started making new friends and even adopted a little girl named London (whom is the best SL kid ever!) The last month I was there was truly gratifying. We got two little kittens, really started to enjoy our routine and I was taking driving lessons. I even got offered a job at the school I was volunteering at teaching preschool! With all of this wonderful news, neither of us bothered to think about when exactly my visa was up. I took my passport out on Sunday, May 31st and was MORTIFIED to discover that my visa was up in 10 days. I cried my eyes out! I did NOT want to leave, however I had no choice. We tried to figure out ways that I could stay for a bit longer (since I just got offered the job and Kris and I are stuck together at the hip) however there was nothing we could really do. Plus on the other hand it's nice to visit with my family and friends.
A few days later, I had a horrible, mind bending pain in my stomach. To make a long story short, after a trip to the ER it was discovered that I had an ulcer. I explained to them that I would be leaving on a 30 hour trip and I needed to be able to fly. They recommended bedrest for 5 days, so that is what I did. I was drugged out of my mind and was in bed until the day before I had to leave. I used that day to visit my friends, Kris' family and spend time with him. I had no time to log into SL or anything like that.
Kris and I had a good long talk about our future, seeing that this 90 days was our "trial" to see if I could acclimate to living in South Africa, how we would get along, if I could find a job, friends, my own "life" there, etc. I accomplished all those things with ease and absolutely loved it.
It turns out we absolutely want to live together in South Africa, and made big plans for the rest of the year. I traveled back to Chicago and am having a lovely time with my friends and family. After a bout of serious jet lag, I'm feeling really much better.
Unfortunately I can't log into SL from any of the computers here, but I can check my e-mail and of course, my plurks. Please don't hesitate to email or plurk and let me know how YOU are doing!

Cause I was bored.

2009-04-06T13:14:00.001-05:00

Cause I was bored., originally uploaded by ~Bibe~.

SCD Blogger Challenge from a year ago that I never had time for!

Made it!

2009-03-24T05:19:00.003-06:00

All settled in with Kris in RL. Now the fun starts! Looks like I'm blogging about once a month. That's not very nice! I'll try to keep up a bit more but I really don't think I'm that interesting.
Life is good here, very very good. We are extremely happy and all is coming together quite nicely. To share in our good fortune I've posted pictures of our new SL home. It's fabulous, you should stop by and taste some wine! Here is a look at our homes throughout our time in SL:

Created with Admarket's flickrSLiDR.

Valentine's Day Roses!

2009-02-15T16:58:00.001-06:00

Valentine's Day Roses! , originally uploaded by ~Bibe~.

LOOK WHAT I GOT!

Petit Chou Grande Opening!

2009-01-29T13:46:00.002-06:00

Come one, Come all!

Great dollarbies and information on a hunt! Don't miss out! Please Click the invite for a SLURL.
Thanks!
~Bibe

Look of the Week

2009-01-17T13:38:00.004-06:00

So what does a girl wear after almost a month of being out of SL? Funny you should ask!
I put this outfit on and did NOT want to take it off. I loved it. I change about 4 or 5 times a day (what?) and this one I wore for almost 2. I only changed cause I had to go to the spa and I like to look semi-professional. What? So I thought this outfit was very "trendy." There are no classical influences like I'm known to have in most of my outfits- so I thought this was very new hollywood. I went to the Retrology Sim to get a shot, and added some accessories to make it look a little papparazi style. I do not smoke but I thought it was a good prop for the shot :)
As per usual, click on the picture to make it larger so you can see different elements captured here.

Hair:
"Pipy" by Mirai Style

Skin:
(My new FAVE) "Meredith (sunkissed) smokey sedution" by TULI

Sunglasses:
"Chic Aviators (Black Frames)" by ETD

Cigarette:
"FNKY! Cigarette II (long ash)" by FNKY/Cake

Shirt:
"Check Shirt Dress in Red" by Aoharu
P.S. Aoharu is having a 50% off sale on EVERYTHING. GO. GO NOW.

Jeans:
"Straight Leg Tru Blu" by T.A.R.T.

Boots:
"Texas 2 in Brown" by Storm Schmooz

So there you have it. I have no idea if anyone even reads these. I find them to be EXTREMELY helpful when I look at other blogs and I think they are fun to do. Plus I loved setting up the shot and wasting time. It was awesome. Man I would kill for a Red Bull in RL.

See you all soon I hope! Say hi!

And.... We're Back!

2009-01-17T13:02:00.004-06:00

And better than EVER. We (Kris and I) have so many plans, along with my good friend Zasa Rossini and a few others, our SL is expanding in ways we never dreamed. What was once some weird hobby we did to keep ourselves entertained has now turned into a Real Life changing experience, one that has proved to enrich and bring so much into my life. If we didn't give the Lindens so much money already, I would tip them.
So we are back from our road trip in South Africa together, feeling absolutely more in love than ever. Lots of exciting new things coming our way in our relationship, and just looking back through this blog you can see that we've been through some amazing adventures. I think this year will bring us to new heights and a better understanding of ourselves and as a couple.

MOVING ON!

I'm very excited about the next month- there will be a lot of changes for me personally and professionally, and I would just like to say that I am forever grateful to all those of you that have stood by me, and become major parts of my RL and SL. I love you all and I appreciate every last one of you!

World AIDS Day

2008-12-01T10:59:00.005-06:00

Today is the 20th World AIDS Day.
In a continuing fight against what sometimes feels like an unstoppable evil, there is so much one person can do. I'm blogging about it here, and I urge you to inform yourself and those around you about AIDS. Get tested. Get informed. Reach out. Keep those who are suffering in your thoughts, and those that are living with it your strength. Always remember there is someone out there who would love to be in your shoes and that your life is precious.
Take care of yourselves and each other.
That is all.

Go here.

Look of the Week

2008-11-25T06:21:00.008-06:00

Winter has graced us with her presence, and we embrace her like a hot cup of cocoa on the first day of snow!

I've been keeping it really simple lately- due to the economy and my extensive wardrobe. I did make one splurge this week, which I've included here!

I took a picture outside my house as I just finished decorating yesterday. Tonight is my big holiday party and I was hoping to have it done!

So here I am on my front porch. That is a Botanical tree which you can purchase from Straylight. If you haven't been there yet, I mean, I just don't know what to tell you. Go. Gooooo noooowwww!!!!

I love dressing for the seasons in SL. It really expands what you can do with your wardrobe. As you know it's always sunny and 75, however I keep it real!

So the focus of this outfit is the Stiletto Moody shoes. These are a brand new release and they really broke the bank coming in at $1099L. I know. I needed them for my holiday party outfit for this evening- they match perfectly!

From there I built up a really simple outfit- straight dark jeans, navy blue jacket and one of the amazing Pashmina's from Zaara's. The pashminas was a great purchase for two reasons- 1. I wear a pashmina in RL almost everyday, and 2. They add a beautiful touch to a plain outfit.

So here are the links!

HAIR:
ETD Yvette- Espresso Burnt

SKIN:
REDGRAVE Tan Skin-Angelina2/natural

PASMINA/SCARF:
Zaara- Berry Blue

JACKET:
Musim- Balloon Sleeve Jacket- Navy
(This is an older jacket, the texture looks soft and wooly, I love it!)

JEANS:
T.a.r.t.- Straight leg indigo
(Something else I dug up)

And the crowning glory:

SHOES:
Stiletto Moody- Pinup Spike, Red Tartan Black
(:::::::drooool worthy!::::::::::)

That's about it! Simple I tell you! The impact is much much more interesting!

Dorian Day Spa Currently Hiring

2008-11-22T13:17:00.006-06:00

Hi friends!

Due to the overwhelming success of the spa, we need to hire MORE people! I know! It's fantastic.
Please follow the link below to go to the requirements page and learn a bit more about the positions we have available. I'll post something fun soon, I swear!

DORIAN DAY SPA IS CURRENTLY HIRING

Look of the Week

2008-11-08T11:49:00.010-06:00

Thought I would try this out, see how it's received. I've had such a busy week RL I just want to do something a bit out of the ordinary. I was surprised how quickly I got through it. Anyway, I like this look cause it's not "typical" Bibe but still me all the same. Plus it's a bunch of pieces from a bunch of different places. Plus a few of my well earned Vain Ghostbuster Hunt prizes!!!

Of course I'm at Dorian Day Spa here- no surprises there. One thing to note the KRIS tattoo is custom and they guy that did it left SL months ago :( That is something people always comment on, so sorry if I broke your heart but you can find plenty of people to do custom tattoo work in SL if you look hard enough!
This outfit started with the ultra low rise, super tight jeans from RAHZ. They were part of the Vain Ghostbusters hunt in three colors. I really didn't like the other two colors unfortunately because I absolutely adore this fit.
The jacket I can't seem to stop wearing- it's from one of my fav new places Ce Cubit effect. Be prepared for sculpt-o-rama tho- they love them sculpties, and the pieces can look odd if you aren't careful.

The tank is one of my favorites and I always forget about it. It's got fantastic texturing. It's from Vette's Boutique. it's a shirt layer, so that's about as long as it gets. The stole from De La comes with a full length tank, but I really wanted to show off the lowness of the jeans (and my sweet tat!).
The bangles I got from a store called OOPS! which when I looked is gone, however you can find really similar (albiet more expensive) bangles at FNKY.
Ok let's talk about the shoes. What a find! These are also from the Vain Ghostbusters hunt. They are froma new store called "Tango" and I thought they only did furniture, but apparently they have branched into shoes. And good on them! These have a wicked awesome steel stiletto and a very nicely done sculpty shape. The star decal on them is also super cute.

I'm not a huge fan of wearing piercings, despite what my inventory might say. I don't generally wear them because I'm always "on the clock" per se meeting guests and interested parties in the spa. Today I felt like wearing my newest piercing acquistion- the Meh Septum Ring. This is really cute and funky without being 34823904320 piercings on my lip (sorry Chaw!) I got a close up here, it's delicate and different at the same time. No, it's not a bull ring. Jerk.

So that's my first Look of the Week! I don't think I'll do this super often, it was just something to mess with whilst I had my coffee. I've included links to all the stores plus what is from where. I know I'm so nice.

Top to Bottom: Click for SLURLS!

HAIR:
ETD Tiana- Espresso Burnt

SKIN:
REDGRAVE Tan Skin-Angelina2/natural

SEPTUM RING:
Meh Septum Ring Silver (nose ring)

CHEST TATTOO:
AITUI Tattoo- Floral breeze/upper body/faded/I
(undershirt layer)

SCARF:
=DeLa*= Stole SunnyYellow dot

JACKET:
!_Ce Cubic effect Short leather jacket for women2 (grey)

TANK:
Vette's Boutique Plain Tank White (part of the Grace outft)

NAILS:
J's Nails-Vivid Pack- pink

BRACELET:
OOPs bangles

JEANS: (***prize from VAIN, INC. Ghostbusters Hunt***)
Rahz Store Lu Skinny 02 (grey)

SHOES: (***prize from VAIN, INC. Ghostbusters Hunt***)
STAR LEMON Pumps (L) .::TNY::. Vain Halloween Hunt

Myers & Briggs

2008-11-05T22:31:00.003-06:00

Counselors have an exceptionally strong desire to contribute to the welfare of others, and find great personal fulfillment interacting with people, nurturing their personal development, guiding them to realize their human potential. Although they are happy working at jobs (such as writing) that require solitude and close attention, Counselors do quite well with individuals or groups of people, provided that the personal interactions are not superficial, and that they find some quiet, private time every now and then to recharge their batteries. Counselors are both kind and positive in their handling of others; they are great listeners and seem naturally interested in helping people with their personal problems. Not usually visible leaders, Counselors prefer to work intensely with those close to them, especially on a one-to-one basis, quietly exerting their influence behind the scenes.

Counselors are scarce, little more than one percent of the population, and can be hard to get to know, since they tend not to share their innermost thoughts or their powerful emotional reactions except with their loved ones. They are highly private people, with an unusually rich, complicated inner life. Friends or colleagues who have known them for years may find sides emerging which come as a surprise. Not that Counselors are flighty or scattered; they value their integrity a great deal, but they have mysterious, intricately woven personalities which sometimes puzzle even them.

Counselors tend to work effectively in organizations. They value staff harmony and make every effort to help an organization run smoothly and pleasantly. They understand and use human systems creatively, and are good at consulting and cooperating with others. As employees or employers, Counselors are concerned with people's feelings and are able to act as a barometer of the feelings within the organization.

Blessed with vivid imaginations, Counselors are often seen as the most poetical of all the types, and in fact they use a lot of poetic imagery in their everyday language. Their great talent for language-both written and spoken-is usually directed toward communicating with people in a personalized way. Counselors are highly intuitive and can recognize another's emotions or intentions - good or evil - even before that person is aware of them. Counselors themselves can seldom tell how they came to read others' feelings so keenly. This extreme sensitivity to others could very well be the basis of the Counselor's remarkable ability to experience a whole array of psychic phenomena.

PSA

2008-10-17T11:43:00.003-05:00

And now a Public Service Announcement!!!

I love that you are all reading my blog! It makes me feel so great that there are people who come and look 1, 2, sometimes even 3 times a day! Wow! Am I that interesting?! I thought not! I just wanted a blog to keep memories and show the world what's going on with me. I didn't know that you would be coming back again and again for more. The greatest part is that I can jsee such wonderful information about all my visitors from all over the world. Where they live, how long they visit for, how they came about the blog. So much information just by visiting! So to all of you that keep coming back again and again (and some of you I know all too well!) Thanks so much! I hope you enjoy seeing all the happiness and good times SL has brought me, and how much of that has spilled over into my RL making my life such an awesome one to live.

Hope you enjoy yours!

Kisses!
~Bibe

So pretty!

2008-10-15T01:05:00.002-05:00

Just found the prettiest sim EVER! You must go see!

JAPAN TEMPURA SIM!

Miss you forever Mike

2008-10-09T21:46:00.002-05:00

You were a bright star. Nothing like this should ever happen.

I'll honor you and love you always cousin.

Good morning world!

2008-09-17T07:00:00.001-05:00

God I'm so glad thats not me.

London Town!

2008-09-17T01:31:00.002-05:00

Kris is in London on business and wouldn't you know, he's being a good boy and letting me tag along! We will both be gone till Sunday. I am SO EXCITED I CAN'T EVEN TELL YOU! I have to wake up in 5 hours?? I can't sleep! Oh well, that is why I bought that awesome pillow at Target today for the plane! ^^

The spa is doing awesomely, I am having a great time with my friends! The only issue I'm having now is balancing it all out, and I'm sure throwing a trip 1/2 way around the world will make life a bit more... interesting!
PLEASE E-mail me if you need anything, we are staying in a hot hotel with awesome internets so if you miss me, drop me a line! I'll try to plurk while I'm there, but not likely. I gotta man to pay attention to!
Take care everyone, and have a great weekend!
~PEACE!

Isn't this pic adorablez?!

Me & You

2008-09-09T22:33:00.001-05:00

Kris and I went looking for lions then sat on our new deck. He's amazing, he's wonderful. I'll see you next weekend darling!

I love my SLister n all but.....

2008-09-03T23:31:00.005-05:00

Venk is a ton of fun. He showed me all around Venkabeau Isle and we ended up in the Twilight Gallery sim! Their sim is gorgeous, and I'm sure once Venk has time (hahahahahahahahahaahilarious) he will put up a bunch of great pictures :) But here are the two I captured on our cool cruise around the sim (sys was up in her studio shootin pics of her fine ass which can be found here: OMG Not Another SL Blog!? <----- second best SL blog title to mine!)

It was awesome! That little vehicle is pretty cool! Venk has really put in a lot of work and it shows. We talked about how blessed we are to have such a great family. I'm very grateful. Thanks for the good times Venk!

This week has been great! Lots of really good times! The spa is doing so well, we have gotten such a great response!

Oh and if you HAVEN'T BEEN YET, you *must* go to Seven Ultra Lounge. Colleen has outdone herself again. This is the hottest club on the grid. So much fun and definitely the place to be! All the hottest people were there. People I never thought I would be in the same room with let alone be partying with! I wish I took more pictures, but I was sooooo scared of crashing! So I snapped one, ^^

From Left to Right: Prad Prathivi (for being such an incredible artist, he is the funniest jackass ever), Colleen Desmoulins from The Loft herself (getting DOWN), Ryker Beck and Caelen.

Here's the Seven Ultra Lounge Stream:

Seven Ultra Lounge Flickr Stream

Check it outtttt!!! SO HOT! The Seven blog is also on my blog list to the right. ^^

I'll be there tomorrow so I'm sure it will be HOTTT!!!

Ok time for studying! Take care all!

Check it out! We are in VAIN, INC issue 13!

2008-09-03T14:56:00.000-05:00

Get your own - Open publication

I'm here!!

2008-08-26T07:08:00.003-05:00

Hello everyone!

Sorry about my absence this past weekend, I am crazy busy in RL. Had family in town and class starts today. I'll see you this evening!
~Bibe

Importance

2008-08-21T12:57:00.008-05:00

I am continuing my post from yesterday, "Because you can't forget what's important" due to a heavy case of gratefulness. The people I have in my life, supporting me, surrounding me, are amazing. I feel so lucky everyday to look around at what I have and know I wouldn't be there without the support I get from them. I am not too weak or insecure to ask for help, and they know my back is sturdy, and I can handle the burdens they can't on their own.

One of my greatest pleasures in SL is going "world>teleport home." I LOVE our house. It's warm, inviting, fun and beautiful. I'd like to show you a bit of it here.

Upon entering, you will quickly be assaulted by three VKC dogs. Russell, our giant German Shepard; Riley, our beloved black lab, (who was missing in these pictures- I think she was out back chasing squirrels); and the obnoxiously cute Cosmo.

They are too precious! Our home and 99% of the furnishings come from The Loft, which you all know by now I am completely obsessed with. The kitchen is RCD and it is a riot.

If you do stop by for a visit, I hope you like tea cause you will be drinking a lot of it.

Apparently due do my recent ban at Armidi, I've had my 1.5 minutes of fame being listed as a fashionista by Shopping Cart Disco. Holy crap. Anyway, here I am in some of my favorite Armidi threads chilling at home. It can't all be updo's and 3 inch stiletto's everyday I tell yah.

Just like in RL, I like to keep myself surrounded by snapshots in SL. Here are a few that are in the TV alcove. The one on the top left is when I took the puppies to see Santa at Christmas, it was hilarious! Then there is Kris and I back in the early days when we got engaged! And on the bottom shelf is my amazing broseph Charley. I love this boy too much. (He lives upstairs in a skybox but shhhhhhhhhhhh)

Speaking of family, did I happen to mention that I have the most talented sister on the grid?! Kimmeh really is a sparkle, she is talented, funny, amazing and sweet! I have two of her portraits on the landing going upstairs. The one of me is when I was pregnant with our daughter, Amelia.

Upstairs on the landing is our bedroom, all laid out. I plan on getting new furniture soon, when corn releases it's new line, so I skipped that for now! Here we are in my office, where I think best.

Kris and I are avid art collectors in SL. I only wish I had another house for all of it. We love going to galleries together and have such similar tastes.
When I need a moment, I just come home and relax. I have a weird habit at the end of my SL day of coming home, changing into pjs, turning the world off, and closing the blinds. It's nice to have such a lovely place to come back to, full of "us" and warmth. There is also something that really makes it special, a place where we can say we live here, together, as a family.

I hope you enjoyed the tour! Please let me know if you would like to stop by and have a cup of tea!

~Bibe, Kris & Amelia~

Because you can't forget what's important

2008-08-21T01:27:00.002-05:00

Things like =Family=

I've been working so hard on the spa, it's nice to have a lovely home to drag my ass back to every night. This evening I had some nice quiet time with the one and only super baby Amelia, our darling little girl...

We got BLOGGED!

2008-08-20T19:01:00.002-05:00

Thank you Gospeed!

Gospeed Racer's blog post about Dorian Day Spa's
grand opening party!

Mooooonnnday!

2008-08-18T19:52:00.013-05:00

Ok so last night, this happened: I GOT BANNED FROM ARMIDI.

Moving on... :::giggles insanely:::

Today was AWESOME! I was excited that the Instyle photo shoot was going on, so I of course found "things to do" at the spa. Actually it was a mess after the party... y'all are pigs! ^^ But Takeshi, Tempest, and their models did a wonderful job, and I tried to stay out of the way as much as possible, except...

Here:

Ummm... here:

And let's see that from another angle:

Doesn't Keshi look awesome with that camera? ^^
It was so exciting to see my spa being used so productively! I feel like we are really starting off well.

The next thing on my agenda, which has been something I wanted to do from the beginning, was make the spa completely accessible to everyone. I don't mean "free" I mean for people who use a wheelchair. Now I know many of you will scratch your heads, seeing that we all walk, dance, and even fly in SL. To some, it is important to advocate for the lifestyles of everyone- and some don't feel the need to hide. Plus, some wheelchairs in SL are extremely awesome. I had already made it so you can't walk off the edges of the decks or walkways with transparent walls, but there are stairs- *everywhere!* I didn't realize it till I tried putting ramps up. So after becoming frustrated, I contacted my good friend, Gentle Heron to see if she could enlist some help for me in designing. Well I struck gold! Olympic Gold to be exact! Jondan Lundquist is NBC's accessibility consultant for the paralympic games. *jaw drop*

He helped me out so much by pointing out the trouble areas, what I should do, and was extremely patient and knowledgeable. I do have to be honest- when he suggested I make one of the villas single level (they are currently 3 different levels) I was so scared. I thought it would really take away the feel of the place. I was so wrong! I kept one of the villas tri-level and the other I made single level. Here are some pictures:

Outside the villa there used to be about 5 steps. I also added a ramp off the walkway. The door opens and closes on a click (does not swing shut).

Here are the treatment areas. All flush.

Here is the changing areas and sitting areas.

I have to say, this came out so well. I'm really glad that Dorian Day Spa will be available for everyone to use! I'm a hardcore accessibility advocate in RL, and I'm glad I can represent that in SL. I also added ramps to two main areas (making the spa completely accessible to use):

Outside the public reception area.

Leading to the private section of the spa reserved for guests and staff.

I am so excited about what went down today! Also put in a new payment system AND subscribe o matic is filling up!

Personal life, ummmm besides being banned from Armidi and having the best man in SL ever? Not much! It's all the spa right now, and I'm loving EVERY second of it!

Create your own paradise!

Dorian Grand Opening Party

2008-08-17T01:00:00.017-05:00

After weeks of preparation, Dorian Day Spa opened it's portal in SL. We didn't know what to expect really, but knew it would be a wonderful time! At 12:50 exactly, the first "official" guest, Gospeed Racer made a grand entrance. It was thrilling to have such an acclaimed blogger at our doorstep. Soon guests starting arriving in droves, and with a few group notices out to the Vain, Inc. crew and InVogue groups, the sim filled up quite quickly. DJ Kris played amazing music, a mix of world and African with some new alternative folk (our favorite genre). He looked amazing and I'm still the luckiest girl on the grid (so there! :P)

Photo by: Morgana Hilra (check out her flickr HERE)

Morgana Hilra was a photo ninja! She would snap and produce faster than anyone I've seen. She was so cute and such a blast to have at the party, thanks for coming! I love making new friends :) I know there were lots of influential people there who noticed her talents immediately. Can't wait to see where this girl goes in the future!
The party didn't stop, and the goody bags I made flew off the reception desk. Enclosed were some Dorian Day Spa gifts and LM's to all our contributors stores, along with booking information and the spa menus.

A cocktail party isn't a cocktail party without cocktail waitresses, and boy we had two of finest! Violeta Caproni and Salvas Zapatero served champagne and martini's to a very libatious crowd! They answered all the guests questions and showed them around flawlessly.

People really liked trying the massage tables, and many will be making appointments. We are officially opened on Tuesday! How exciting! The team and I are definitely ready to bring our exceptional service and luxury to the grid.

After our little shindig, I decided to head on over to Jake's High Energy Club (SLURL) for a little booty shaking at the White Party. So much fun! The sim hit an occupancy of 70 and I didn't see it go down at all! I would have taken a picture but... I was too busy werkin' it.

Well that is it for this post, I'm exhausted! But the good kind of tired, you know? Where you know you worked hard and played hard. Today is a day I will never forget.

Thank you to all those who came and those who wished us well. You are forever in our gratitude.

The spa will also be open tomorrow to the public, but it is the *very* last day! So stop by and grab a goody bag before they run out!

Here's the SLURL: Dorian Day Spa Reception Area

If you have any questions, please IM me or e-mail me at bibemayo@doriandayspa.com

Photo: Morgana Hilra

Make sure to check out Dorian Day Spa website for more pictures.

So much good news...

2008-08-14T20:31:00.005-05:00

Ok good news upon good news upon.... gooDER news....

1. Check out the new logo:

Kimberly Mirabeau is so talented and guess what? SHE'S MY SLISTER! I'm so lucky, look what she did!

Right?!

2. The party is Saturday, and planning is going really well.

3. I've done some really cool "spa menus" that look awesome. So much better than a crappy notecard.

4. Ammon Pera came by today and will be blogging about the spa party here! Remember, this is the one and only day the spa will be open to the public (without an appointment that is!)- so be sure to come check it out while you can!

Check out the Inv Daily blog

He loved it!

And lastly, got to spend some time today with my honey... he is truly the greatest gift in my life:

Dorian Opening Party!!!

2008-08-14T12:27:00.003-05:00

The Dorian Day Spa officially opens this Saturday! I can't believe this day is here! I'm so excited to share the fabulousness with the SL world... it's sure to be an excellent time, with plenty of wonderful guests! We have the most wonderful setting, great drinks and hors odeavers, music by my one and only, Kris and give aways! Don't miss out! This is the *one and only* day that the spa will be open to the public for showing- so make sure to stop by!

IM me for an invitation!

Dorian Day Spa all pretty and such

2008-08-10T01:21:00.005-05:00

By the extremely lovely and talented Nyla Rossini of Vain, Inc. Make sure you click on it to see it in all it's glory:

Thank you so much! I really appreciate it!

I will be out of town till Tuesday, August 12th. ^^

Ch-ch-changes

2008-08-09T22:29:00.005-05:00

These last few weeks in SL have been extremely trying. A lot of people I know experienced losses like I did, for different reasons at different times, but I sometimes felt like the last sane person in an insane world. It became extremely clear that at the first sign of crazy, one should walk.

In SL I try to conduct myself the same way I do in RL. My friend Ilse gave me a very good compliment the other day by saying I keep myself drama-free. Therefore when drama does come knocking at my door, I usually keep the door closed, never inviting it in. It just doesn't make sense to me. So I do the same in SL, and it seems a lot of people are the opposite. Maybe it's the anonymity of it all- being able to say or do things without consequence, just for the fact that you can really "be yourself" and not have to look at the person you are saying something to (hell even hear their voice). Well, I am who I am. I step up when I make an error, and I try to keep level headed at all times. I have not forgotten, and it seems lately to reiterate itself clearly in my face, that not everyone conducts themselves in this fashion. I should have seen it coming, I should have seen it before and actually kept the door shut, but I didn't.

For now, new beginnings. The door is not only shut, it is nailed, boarded, been blessed with holy water and padlocked. Only open to those who present themselves honestly and without malice. Open to those who choose to think before they act, and always try to bring positivity into their lives and the lives of other people. I believe that taking my broom and sweeping all the bad energy out of my life is not only healthy, but takes a weight off my shoulders and leaves me free to be the person I want to be and have the life I want to have- spreading positivity and happiness with class and ease. Letting people be who they are and want to be.

The spa has such an amazing vibe. It is not only beautiful to look at, but *feels* beautiful. Feels like a place that inspires, nurtures, and heals. This is the spa I wanted to make and I'm so lucky to have friends that are willing to share their talents.

Our official open date is Saturday, August 16th. We will be sending out invitations shortly.

Thank you to everyone who has been so supportive. I know you all are right, and I appreciate all of you!

TGIF

2008-08-01T10:48:00.003-05:00

I AM EXHAUSTIMACATED!

This weekend I will be out of SL a lot due to RL functions. Which is fine, I think I need to resurface for a bit. The weather is hot hot hot and I've got plenty going on that needs to be attended too.
SL brigthened up a bit this week with the beginning of training, and I have to say I'm really excited about my team! They are all such smart, talented people. I will write more about each of them next week, and I have a few surprises in store for them as well ^^
We have spent the first two trainings on booking alone, as Google Calendar requires a bit of practice. After 2 times, they all have totally mastered it! I'm so glad to see committed, hard working, articulate people here in SL. The spa will be so popular because of them- they will really get people coming back.
Charley is back from his vacay, and I hope he is here to stay because I hate SL without him, it's like being at Disney World alone =(
People are still experiencing heart break, albeit the self-inflicting kind. Sometimes the heart doesn't listen to the head, and in the end it just breaks a little more.
I feel so lucky to have Kris. Even though there are 9000 miles between us, two very very busy RL lives, and an SL filled with tasks, we still seem to stick to our routine and make it work. It's times like these I feel very loved, even though there may not be hours of free time together (like there was in the beginning) I know he is taking time out to show he cares about me, and I hope I do the same for him. He is a very special man, and I'm a very lucky woman.
I can't wait for the parties to open up the spa with! I really have to get invitations and guest lists done! So much to do!

Check out this HAWT pic of the ladies of Wilder PR Firm, Inc that we took last night with Ludwig Prinz of Prinz Photostudio!

(Myself, Annette & Mahala!)

Heartbreaks...

2008-07-26T12:53:00.003-05:00

Something is in the water.

I have to preface this by saying I'm a bit in mourning. Seems that my friends are not having great success at relationships. It's painful to watch my friends struggle like this, and I'm often at a loss for what to do. I stay by their side, I wait while they need to be quiet, I let them go when they need to, and let them stay when they need another person around. I zip my lips, and keep my advice to myself. Advice should be left for the people who say the same thing to themselves, just not outloud. What people who have breaking hearts are thinking, does not need to be said out loud. It may need to be said by that person, to let it go, hopefully release it, be able to set it down in the past and leave it there, not carry it with them. But you can't do that for other people, they have to do that for themselves.
*sighs* I'm so at a loss. This week has had so many highs and lows. As usual I will try to go through some positives...

Kris bought some gorgeous animals for the Spa, so it's starting to look more and more
like Lion Sands everyday. The ground texturing was so hard... but I eventually got it to a satisfactory level of "ummmm... that looks ok."

Zasa kicked ass on my new spa office.

Wilder is doing great. We are getting more bids for work, and the team couldn't be stronger.

You know what? For right now... I'm just gonna let myself be sad. At least there is Straylight.

Good Morning, Good Afternoon, Good Evening

2008-07-21T00:58:00.005-05:00

Yay! New blog look! Do you like it? I figured since the other blogs were getting attention, some of you noisy nellies would come on down here... naughty naughty! ^^

The spa is coming together quite nicely. I can't believe what a lucky girl I am! So many people have stepped up and helped me, it's so great to have such talented friends! I will showcase all of them and their work when the spa is all set. As of right now, I'm trying to keep it under wraps as long as I can. Although with each new step it gets more and more beautiful, it's still far away from being done.
Watching it come together is like having a dream and waking up and putting it all together. I had a vision- and so many people listened and took that vision, making it a reality and in most cases, making it better than I could have ever expected.
The schedule for the spa is coming along too. I'm interested in having three opening parties as well. Why three? Well, unlike most SL parties, the more the not so merrier... I would like people to feel free to move around our tiny island lagfree and peacefully. The first one will be for friends, the second for press, and the third I would like to get together with either ACS or Wellness Island for a special party for them. During that time we will also be training, then hopefully the week after we will open. It is important for me to have the staff oriented and trained so they don't feel like they are being "thrown in the deep end." I've got some great people on the team, and I'm sure they will do fabulously.
I am not expecting anything out of this, except to share with people what is in my head, what I feel could bring people some joy and an unforgettable experience. I love it thus far, and everyone that sees it seems to love it as well. Each time I see it, it takes my breath away.
I can't end this post without giving huge props to my dear friend, Seren Fearne. I ran into this fabulous woman at Tuli, where we talked fashion and I friended her. That's not normally common for me, but I felt a connection with her instantly. After just a few weeks, she is my manager and I am honored to be in her wedding to the lovely Jayden Faulds- someone I actually knew before! SL is getting smaller and smaller... anyway, it's a great cooperative effort, and we are really working well together. She is such a funny, kind, super gal- and I hope she is ready for some hard work ahead! lol...
Wilder PR Firm, Inc, is doing better than ever. We have reached a status we are really grateful for, and working our tails off for our clients. Along with our wonderful assistant, Mahala Bing, Annette Wilder and I are really feeling like our business is complete and functioning at a level we are truly happy with.
On the home front, today Kris and I celebrate our 1 year anniversary since we became partnered in SL. I still feel like the luckiest girl in the world, and we are better than ever. I want to celebrate this day for the rest of my life, even if it is just a lovely hug, kiss and a smile in our bed in the morning.

Here's your last look at the Spa until it's finished! Enjoy it while it lasts :)

Dorian Day Spa

2008-07-14T12:13:00.002-05:00

My latest adventure. Just starting, but I'm so excited.

http://doriandayspa.blogspot.com

I Gotta Glow Now...

2008-05-19T12:33:00.001-05:00

I Gotta Glow Now..., originally uploaded by Bibe Mayo-Voight.

A pic from Tunnel of Light, on the way to the entrance of Club Haze where the GLOW Party thrown by our friends at InVogue Hommes Magazine took place. It was amazing! I snapped a few pictures. Thus far the "glow" of objects is my new favorite... I like it better than the addition of windlight. Check out the stream for more pictures!

Pictures taken in Amoranell

2008-04-29T10:20:00.001-05:00

Come on in, originally uploaded by Bibe Mayo-Voight.

in honor of my wonderful friend Gianas triumphant return to SL, this is the first of the pics. Click to go to the stream to view them all. Fun fact, these were the last pictures taken before I became pregnant.

Enjoy!!

AFK... seriously =)

2008-03-18T12:53:00.003-06:00

AFK... seriously =), originally uploaded by Bibe Mayo-Voight.

AFK... seriously =)

We'll be a bit.... "busy" till the 29th.
In the meantime, enjoy this wonderful rock love song, that makes me swell with little particles of love light allllll through my body, just thinking about that first moment, in a crowd of people, when the tears well immediately, and the smile is electric, and the world melts away, and the breath is static, and the bodies move like charged magnets towards each other, and the first touch is like being at sea forever and finally finding a safe harbor....

or something. Anyway, bbl bitches!

www.youtube.com/watch?v=SYJjHCZN46U

Uploaded by Bibe Mayo-Voight on 18 Mar 08, 12.40PM CST.
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Introducing...

2008-02-29T13:20:00.001-06:00

Lookiedatface!, originally uploaded by Bibe Mayo-Voight.

Amelia Piper Mayo-Voight

Born: 11:05 am, 2/22/08

7 lbs, 3 oz (66 prim! :)

Our darling, darling, DARLING! daughter was born after an exciting and great delivery on Friday 2/22. It was an amazing experience thanks to those at the Sweet Dreamz Clinic. If you are planning on having any SL babies, this is THE place to get your services. We also had a wonderful sonogram on Thursday to make sure all was well with little Amelia. It was a wonderful surprise to have a lil girl!
Tracy was in attendance at the birth, being the wonderful friend she is. Kris and I spent the rest of the day with our new addition, and the presents and well wishes came flowing in throughout the day.
The next day she was passed around more than a freebie! She has pictures with nearly all of her extended extended family, and let me tell you she is SPOILED rotten. Even got her very own plot! =)
She is very, very cute and very charming. Goes to sleep at 10:30 every night (coincedence?? Script?! YOU tell me!) Loves going off with Unkie Charley her nanny, and is a daddy's girl for sure!
I'm having so much fun with her, she is such a blessing =)

Wilder PR & and BABY NAMES!!!

2008-02-18T19:59:00.003-06:00

Wow lot's has been going on... and it's only going to get better!
Personally, Wee Bean will be making their dramatic, as yet to be sex determined, particle filled, lag fest of a birth on Friday, 2/22. Kris and I are absolutely nuts and excited about it! I know already I'm going to be an emotional wreck. We also asked Tracy to do a machima of the birth, so you all will get front row seats!! My bump is huge, and my tummy is talking up a storm... I'm actually going to really miss being pregnant. :(
We also picked NAMES!
We started out with a huge list, boys and girls as we want to be surprised. Kris put some input in and so did I. I had a few that I was sure of, and in the end they ended up on the cutting room floor!
So yadda yadda... the list became smaller and smaller and here are the BIG WINNERS!

Boy: Xollie Sean
Girl: Amelia Piper

Xollie is an African name. The "X" is actually the cool "click" noise some of the Southwestern African languages that I can't pronounce, but Kris can. So for all of us "unable to click" just plain old Ollie will have to suffice. Oliver was my first pick for a boy but Xollie was a great idea and a good way to celebrate Kris' South African heritage! Sean is just a cool name.

On the other side of things I've become the newest Associate of Wilder Pr Firm Inc! I've *finally* found my niche in SL. I don't have the patience to learn how to build or script, so this is just fantastic! Communication, organization, ideas and getting the word out there are some of my strongest traits. I LOVE the work and it's definitely using lots of my FL and SL experience.
As a new associate to Wilder PR, I would like to say thank you first of all to Annette Wilder to taking me on for this exciting adventure.

My goals with Wilder PR Firm are to bring my strengths of communcation & organization to promote all of our client's goods and services. Being part of this great company gives me the opportunity to use my skills and experiences that I have attained in my First Life as well as in my Second Life.

Please feel free to contact me regarding any questions or if you would like learn a bit more about Wilder PR Firm, Inc.

E-mail: wilderprinc@gmail.com

Wee Bean

2008-02-06T23:23:00.001-06:00

Wee, originally uploaded by Bibe Mayo-Voight.

Wee Bean...

You are so much more than people think... you are the symbol of a true love that has been in the making for eternity, you are the dual creation of a love so pure that nothing will hold it back, not distance, nor time, nor humanly obstacles. We created you out of love and harmony- out of a need to expand what we know is best for us, you are ours, for now, forever. We will love you like we love each other- unconditionally and honestly. You have two parents who love you more than anything, as you are what makes us special. You are our love manifested.

A Star is (almost) Born!

2008-01-24T15:45:00.001-06:00

Thank you TRACY STARBROOK! You are so clever and talented!

Bump Watch!

2008-01-22T22:18:00.001-06:00

Mum-to-be, originally uploaded by Bibe Mayo-Voight.

Since I am completely avoiding first life obligations today, I may as well do something semi-productive. I don't think picking up hobo purses (Celestial Studios) and hitting the Last Call sale count.
Ahhhhh SL pregnancy. As if it couldn't get any more interesting, we switched out wee bean's home womb to a much better one. It's like the baby upgraded from a condo to a penthouse.
Kris and I chose Natural Choice Family Practice as our provider. It was a toss up between Bundle of Joy and NCFP. We chose NCFP because.... well they had cuter babies. That was the first reason I should say, they also have a lovely facility, everything was well organized, stated clearly and legibly (with minimal spelling and grammar errors-yay) things like that. I'm a nut about that stuff. The Sim itself is wonderfully designed with shops and two cafes. There is also a recreational center for families to get together. They are great at customer requests and also they tend to do EXACTLY what they say they are going to do and in a fabulously timely manner. These things, more so than the "warm and fuzzy" feeling at Bundle of Joy really solidified our decision.
Now we went for the full package at NCFP. Shapes, interactive belly, appointments, oh, and the baby of course ;) The shapes are your own, just modified into 4 "weeks" of pregnant shapes. I love that because I worked on my shape tirelessly and did not want to walk around in some weird shape that would not feel right. They went out and came back the next day. The first week shape looks like straight up beer bloat. I'm not gonna lie. lol All the pics in the previous 4 postings have that shape. So you can't tell. It's nice to see a change though, and know the body isn't being ignored in this process.
The interactive belly from NCFP left A LOT to be desired though. We switched to the Fixedbit Tummy Talker, which was much better. It is a lot more in depth (and cheaper?!) and has more options. The good thing about the NCFP belly is that you can name certain people so when they touch your belly it says "Auntie Tracy" (Hi Tracy! lol). But that was about it. I have a feeling I could rip scripts and stuff but I would rather just leave it be. I feel more connected to wee bean through this belly anyway, which is the point.
We have scheduled appointments for our ultrasound and delivery, although the delivery is not going to work unfortunately. To see a delivery (because you definitely aren't going to see mine!) follow this link: The birth of Edan Jr.
Oh and thanks to SL Mean Girls for this FABULOUS article on Interactive Pregnancy Bellies. It's hilarious. When I am out in a public place I almost always turn the volume down so only I can hear it, but their take on the whole mess is so funny.

R.I.P. Heath Ledger

2008-01-22T21:13:00.000-06:00

So sad. So much talent.

Siren

2008-01-22T00:10:00.001-06:00

Siren, originally uploaded by Bibe Mayo-Voight.

mmmmmmmmmmm windlight...

To Alt or Not to Alt... that is the question...

2008-01-20T18:03:00.000-06:00

Alts.
They've been on my mind since an exchange I had with another Avi at a live music performance at Rocky Shores on Saturday. The Avi was wearing one of Grendel's Children awesome avatars- a brown, steam punkish blimp. It was gorgeous, and $50L. If you have not been to Grendel's Children, you MUST go, I always have a blast there. Even if you don't spend a Linden, the avi watching is priceless, you see the most creative avatars around.
But back to the conversation- I asked the avi where they got the blimp because my partner would love one (he was drooling over it but wouldn't ask- wimp :P) for his Alt. The blimp responded by saying "What is an alt?"
....
wwwwwwwoooooooowwwwwwww.... seriously?! I immediately friended this creature because anyone this blissfully unaware of things like alts has to be a good friend for me, just for the sheer fact that with all my SL knowledge, they have to listen to me. So I explained, "an alt is another account- more than your main avatar."

Since this little encounter with the oblivious blimp, I have been thinking long and hard about alts (it's the weekend, I'm allowed to let my mind soar or dip wherever it needs to go). There are many reasons to have an alt. I think the most legitimate is for business purposes. Maybe you would like to start a business but as an unknown, or just so you can focus more on the business, not so much the social networking aspect of SL. A lot of people I know have dual sex accounts (a female account and a male account) just to play both sides. Unfortunately, I think most alts are created for not so honorable means, such as stalking and griefing.

I, myself, choose not to have an alt- although it has crossed my mind many times. I have done so many things in SL where an alt would be viewed as merely something to utilize. A good example is when I wanted to start RPing in Toxian City- (a fighting sim). It would be completely normal to create an alt that was purely for fighting. Since I see Bibe as an extension of first life self, it's harder for me to pull even further away. Not saying I think it is wrong or even "shady" to have any alt, most everyone I know does or has had to create one due to psycho exes and what have you, for me I just don't see much of a point. I like being able to morph into anything I could possibly want. People use SL for all sorts of escaping, I tend to utilize it as a tool to enhance my first life. Having an alt would be like having an alt in real life, I just don't see a point.

But why do people have alts? What is the number one reason? I would really like to get to the bottom of it. I might create an alt just to see where it goes. Start as a newb again (I never really was a newb Kris keeps telling me lol).

That's the best part of SL. You can be WHATEVER you want. Lindens or no Lindens (face it- there are ways to make money in SL if you have patience and motivation) you can become whatever it is your little pixelated heart desires. I want to be a pregnant housewife who works at a spa and sometimes wears latex at the hottest clubs, sometimes getting my ass beat down on the mean streets of Toxian City or sitting in a coffeehouse with my friends from all over the world- so be it. I can do it all as Bibe.

C'est Moi (see I'm not so bad!)

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Seuss

While I have a waist...

2008-01-18T23:59:00.001-06:00

While I have a waist..., originally uploaded by Bibe Mayo-Voight.

I bought this dress only for the stole (it's adorable) but the dress turned out to be quite lovely too :)

Silver dress & Stole- Icing
Slingbacks (black)- Shiny things
Pinwheel necklace- Beck's fine jewelry (this was a NYE limited edish)

Before I get fat

2008-01-18T23:56:00.001-06:00

Before I get fat, originally uploaded by Bibe Mayo-Voight.

My FAVORITE item this week...
Glam Rock dress- Punch Drunk
Stiletto's (black/red)- Maitreya

Punch Drunk did a limited edish pink version of this dress with 100% of the proceeds benefiting the Susan G. Komen foundation. Since I got there too late (EFF YOU RL WORK) I got the purple version. It's incredible.
And the shoes. If I could lick them I would.

It's getting warmer out there!

2008-01-18T23:53:00.001-06:00

It's getting warmer out there!, originally uploaded by Bibe Mayo-Voight.

Wanted to post a few pics of items I picked up this week.
Plaid Jacket- fuse
Lace shirt- fuse
Skinny Jeans- t.a.r.t.
Stacked heel pumps- Shiny Things

I drooled over those shoes and kept myself away for like a week. They are incredible.

An Open Letter (betrayal)

2008-01-17T22:49:00.000-06:00

I'm not one to sit on my hands. You know this. I may not always know how to stick up for myself, but I'll be damned if I don't for my friends. I may be everyone's favorite silly "good time" girl, but cross my friends and you'll end up with a lioness on your hands who is pissed.
You know this. Yet over and over and over I watch you getting treated like a doormat, and I just can't. It's exhausting watching you willingly become someone's punching bag. It's like watching someone bang their head on the wall. I've heard everything you said, I listened as well as I could when you had to speak, when you had to vent... over and over. It's the same thing.
I stand by my friends, I hold them up, but I can't become a skeleton, and I won't stand back when they are threatened.
I've been in an abusive relationship, I've watched my friends go through it, and I am not one to stand by idly with a lot of "yeahs... that must be hard... he shouldn't treat you that way." No no no no no no NO. Hell no. That doesn't roll with this bitch. I will tell HIM he shouldn't be treating YOU that way, because abusers know what they are doing, they know DAMN WELL and they don't hear it from those they are abusing. And they need to. They deserve to. So when I approached the matter, I got the response I predicted (bad boy gets badder), which is fine, my life is a much better place knowing he can wallow in his own self-pity and hate by himself. I said my piece, he had a tantrum and some remarkable spelling and grammar errors, and here we are. Good riddance.
What I did not expect, however, was a reaction like the one you gave me. If I had been set on fire by him (which I'm sure he can do with all his neat-o "grifer" toys. How old is he? 12?) I think even then you would have decided to stay. I think one of my goals in approaching him was to show you that he is an asshole. He's not just an asshole to you (because you often blame yourself for his unredeemable behavior) but he is just, as a person, an asshole. I thought maybe you would see it was nothing YOU did wrong, that this boy is ridic- and needs to go. But is he gone? No. He is still on YOUR land. Which he refers to as being part of his own. Please!
I must thank you though, really. Thank you for teaching me to stay back when my friends are being abused. Thanks for reminding me that not everyone needs help. Thank you for reminding me why drama is created by ourselves, not other people. I brought this upon myself, and I freely let go of it for you to deal with.
I'll be over here when you need me, but I can't be a part of your life when he is around. He is sick, sad and mean. He is a terrible person to boot. I don't say that often. I know a lot of despicable people with redeeming qualities. He, on the other hand, has none. So until you cleanse yourself of his toxicity, I can't be around to expose myself or my family to that.
And I love you, you know that. This is your fight to fight. I won't interfere. I hope for your sake it works out. I hope for your sake you realize there is no good time to leave someone who sucks so hard, no matter how well they play you.

...and (prim) baby makes three!

2008-01-15T21:08:00.001-06:00

Me and mah Bump!, originally uploaded by Bibe Mayo-Voight.

Well we went for it and we're pregnant! We are feeling utterly and completely blessed. Our little pride and joy has been in the back of our minds for quite some time. We are loving this experience, it is so much more than I would have thought it could be. I didn't always feel this way about Second Life pregnancies, but then again I also never imagined myself having a a toilet in SL. And I have one of those. I know I have had a lot of the same skeptical feelings about SL pregnancies and babies as many people out there. In addition to being what appears to be something that many feel should be confined to hardcore role players, the most important and obvious point is that there isn't any "new" life. There is no person behind the "prim doll." It's a pile of prims (albeit much cuter than previous versions :) no offense creators, we will love our baby!) with very complicated scripts. If you can't possibly imagine caring for anything like this, I DARE you to go to Virtual Kennel Club and not fall in love with the dogs. We have three and they are so amazing! Our "wee bean" (our baby's nickname till it's born-we didn't predetermine gender, we want to be surprised at the delivery) represents so much to my partner Kris and I. Wee is something we can experience and love together, a tangible, responsive representation of our commitment to each other. Neither of us club that much, Kris DJ's at the Bushy Beard once a week and I am the Spa coordinator at Costa Luna. We don't build or script- our Second Life is as close to getting everything out of our relationship as we possibly can right now due to the constrictions of our very long distance relationship. Wee offers us a chance to have something we both want so much in our first lives but will have to wait till we are together long enough to actually have a baby. :) I'm so excited about that possibility, and right now, SL has offered us an amazing opportunity to share an experience that means more to us than an island or a successful in-world business (although those would be nice too). Our aims in SL have always been to enjoy ourselves and each other. This is just the next step in making that happen.One of my favorite aspects of our pregnancy is our friends reaction to the baby. They are so warm, responsive and supportive. I get IM's "Hey Mama!" and "How's the bump?" lol... it's awesome! Actually today I was flying through Mill Pond and when I landed, another avatar said "Are you sure you should be doing that in your condition?" I just thought that was adorable. Everyone wants to come by to see the nursery (which of course was done the day after we discovered we were pregnant- this is just my style lol) and say hi to wee :) If it takes a village to raise a child, then we've got the best looking, smartest, funniest, coolest village ever!

A lot goes into making a baby, and having a prim baby is definitely work as well. Each week I'll write a little bit about it. I of course will be covering shopping and how we picked our agency (if you've never looked into it, you would be as shocked as I was to find how many agencies there are)! I'd love to share all the information I've shared with you, (all 2 of you that read this lol). And we all know I've got impeccable taste :) Lucky you!

Needless to say, I'm thrilled. I feel like the luckiest woman in the world. This is going to be a great adventure... :)

For more pics, please feel free to view my flickr stream. It's on the upper right hand side of the front page.

Smokin' hot..

2008-01-14T13:43:00.001-06:00

Smokin' hot.., originally uploaded by Bibe Mayo-Voight.

not for long...

Oh Gi, Where are you?

2008-01-09T09:11:00.001-06:00

Oh Gi, Where are you?, originally uploaded by Bibe Mayo-Voight.

There is a certain desperation that comes along with missing someone. You start to take their absence personally. I don't think she is avoiding me or anything- I'm not insecure that way, plus she adores Costa Luna so much I doubt she would let little ol' me stand in the way of protecting all her islands, let alone that one. That's not what I mean. I mean it starts to really, really hurt at a certain point. I'm at that point.

I miss her so much that sometimes in the evenings I just go to her amazing house on her amazing island she shares with Dante and I just cam around, hoping to find some evidence she has been there either (virtually) physically or spiritually. I come up short every time. Nothing.

It is a known fact that virtual, electronically based relationships have as much emotionally invested as real (I HATE that term) ones. Therefore, one of my very best friends in the whole wide world has disappeared. Not like I don't have ideas of what happened. I will keep her RL story private, (as it is not mine to tell) but I know there were some health complications. Now guess how worried I am.

I have no real information to use. I wish I had been more forward and asked for an RL address (to send a holiday card) or at LEAST a last name. Something. I'm thisclose to checking the Obits for anyone with her first name. But that would be jumping the gun.

I try to look after her SL properties as much as possible as her SL partner doesn't log in at all anymore- but that may be because he is busy. I'm praying it's not because he can't emotionally handle logging in due to some circumstances I do not know of.

Anyway, this was just a way to get out how I feel, how much I miss her, how much I value her and love her. She was my rock, my place to go when I needed a kick in the ass.

I can't say "I hope she is ok" anymore. It's too scary, I hope she is fucking fabulous and somewhere on vacation loving life.

Moral of the story, if you love someone in SL, I mean, really, really love someone and care about their well-being, at least get a last name.

This song captures my frantic desperation to know she is ok...

Like Hamsters in a Wheel

2007-12-30T10:13:00.001-06:00

First there was the article on SL being controlled by shear brain waves:
(p.s. how cool is the word "neurophilosophy?" I think I've found my 8th consecutive major in college).

Then I found this today:

Thoughts? Anyone? Anyone?

Ethnicity in SL

2007-12-11T16:19:00.001-06:00

In RL, I live in a very diverse city. I think a community is more beautiful and interesting if there are differences. Skin color, cultural backgrounds, etc. So to me, SL can get quite boring.
This week I tried two different looks both using different ethnicities. First was an African look- (not necessarially "African-American" but just of "African decent." :)
I used a skin from Pixeldolls. I probably could have done more work on this (better skin perhaps, better clothes) but I like the way she turned out.
I wore this around for a day and noticed a bit of a "cold shoulder" attitude. So I guess even in SL there is a natural tendancy towards stereotyping.
The next day I did an "asian" look, which I loved. I used an avatar from Pixeldolls again, but I changed the shape quite a lot and bought a new skin from Cake. People really liked this shape. I find it to be incredibly sexy, but I don't want to play that up. I much prefer the secretary kind of sexy. All buttoned up with the hottest lingerie on underneath. :)
The dress in these pictures is a freebie from Pixeldolls called "Celeste." The gold sandales are from Armidi.
Here is my "normal" or "basic" look. LOL Makes me realize I made myself pretty realistic. I chose the short, curvy stature because when my SL partner holds me, it's quite like real life. Plus Jeans look *awesome* on this shape :)

The Grid is down!? Now what?

2007-12-11T14:05:00.000-06:00

I've found quite a few ways to get your SL fix while Linden "fixes" things. LOL.

1. Flickr. Flickr is such a great way to look at some very talented people doing very cool things with their SL captures. My favorite is to just flip through the SL group photos.
Flickr Second Life Group

2. SHOP! I'm really not a fan of SLExchange, I do NOT like the way the search works (or doesn't work for that matter) and I feel like Onrez has better quality items.

Onrez

3. Browse through the SL links on the side of this page....

4. Check out the website Massively. It's a huge website that combines all the big MMO's news and posts. It's interesting to look at the other games.
Massively

5. Start your own blog! SL or otherwise, it's a great way to document and share your interests.

Any of these options could keep you busy for hours. There is also the option of cleaning your RL house or going for a run. Right?

See you in-world! (Hopefully :)

What Lagalicious can do for YOU

2007-12-09T00:30:00.000-06:00

Welcome one and all of the Second Life persuasion, and those of you who are just curious (or mistaken). You are all here to witness my blog as a Second Life resident and consumer.
I plan on bringing out all I find to be interesting within Second Life. Think of me as your friend with impeccable taste, or at least someone with something interesting to say once in awhile :)
I decided to start documenting my personal experience in Second Life because I have found it to be very fulfilling and a creative process that I think will be interesting to look back at in the future. This media seems to intersect on so many levels, it's hard to imagine all of the amazing possibilities.
I will be discussing the following topics in SL (since these are what my Second Life entails)
~ Romance- I'm very much involved (and in love) with my SL Partner, Kris Voight

~ Shopping- My favorite thing to do in SL :)

~ Discovering & Exploring- Great places to see and things to do

~ Social scene and interaction- My views on the society aspect of Sl

~ And whatever else comes to mind :)

On those things which I don't feel comfortable talking about but love reading or discussing involving SL (such as building, creating, politics or anything scandalous!) I will be sure to share with all of you :)

Now to see if I can get some readership or comments going, I am offering the Opulence Spa Package available at Costa Luna Resort & Spa given to you by yours truly. Please comment on this post, and give a little link to your own blog which I will post here. The winner will be chosen at random and I will contact you in-world (so be sure to use your SL name). The contest will end January 1st, 2008.

If you are curious as to what is involved in a visit to the spa, please feel free to come by the island and see for yourself. :)

SLURL: Costa Luna Resort & Spa